Dealing With Working Mom Guilt

You may have the best of intentions for working but you are not always sure that your children and family understand or comprehend your reasons.

Here are some ways to deal with your guilt while continuing to work.

Reasons For Working

Many women find it very useful to write down on paper their reasons for working.

Everyone works for different reasons and it can be helpful to see them in black and white to evaluate the validity of your guilt.

Even if the reason is that you would not be happy as a stay-at-home mom you should accept your reason as a valid one and then move on. Keep your list and when the feelings crop back up pull it out and read it to help get past your guilt once again.

Avoid Negative People

It sounds very simple; just avoid the negative people that make the snide comments about your continued employment outside the home.

This is not always an easy task. You may be able to avoid the nasty neighbor that suggests she would never let strangers raise her children but you might not be able to bypass your nosey mother-in-law that makes passing comments about working mothers.

If you are unable to avoid pesky family members, then just remove yourself from the room when the comments start flying. Many times, if you can remind yourself, they may come from a different time where women were not expected to earn an income.

Most people that have negative comments about working mothers are speaking from their own experiences and perspective.

Take Time For Family

When you just cannot put your guilt aside try taking a day off and spending it with your children.

Take a day to enjoy your children and schedule nothing else. This means no multi-tasking; do not make last minute doctor appointments just take the kids and play. During this time you will rebuild that connection with your children and enjoy just being a mom.

Evaluate during your mommy time whether you are happier being with your children more – maybe it is time to explore an alternative working arrangement.

The Grass Is Not Always Greener

You must keep in mind that you may have some guilt over working outside the home, but being a stay-at-home mom is not without its challenges and guilt. Many stay-at-home moms juggle multiple children and household chores and are always the mother they would like to be.

Life is full of challenges and no one ever knows what the future holds, so you should try to enjoy each day and not regret the decisions that you have made.

Tony Jacowski is a quality analyst for The MBA Journal. Aveta Solutions – Six Sigma Online ( offers online six sigma training and certification classes for lean six sigma, black belts, green belts, and yellow belts.

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